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So, you’ve set up your first website in the hope that you can attract more visitors to your business. You’ve worked a few months planning, designing, developing and paying for a great web host. All that remains to be done is for you to step back, and marvel at your creation, and wait for the visitors to come gushing in.

And so you, wait - and wait, and wait, and wait.

But the visitors don’t come gushing in. Your store is open, but the customers are not there. Your beautiful website just sits there while the dust gathers at its feet.

You don’t get it.

Suddenly you decide to Google your website to see if punching in the keywords for search will yield any results. Nada.

Ooops, wait. There it is, at page 99999 of the results page.

You begin to see the big problem.

Your beautiful site is worthless if people can’t find it. People can’t find it if it doesn’t get listed prominently on the internet.

There are billions of web users who are desperately searching for their needs. Their needs may actually be the service or product you are offering. How can direct all these people to your website?

Well, the good news is, there is hope. The amazing truth of the internet is that your company, no matter how small or large has a chance at generating huge amounts of traffic if you learn a few neat tricks of traffic generation.

Get Inside the Engine

If you want traffic to come crashing at your door, you need to know how internet users learn of the sites that interest them. There are quite a few ways how one learns of websites of interest: print ads, spot ads, referrals from friends, and others. But the most important and widely used avenue is the search engine.

Search engines like Google, Yahoo search, and MSN search all rely on a simple procedure. They have special ’spiders’ that crawl all over the web visiting sites to index them and collect data about them. The spiders then use this data in generating results of any number of search queries.

To rank highly in the results page a normal site will have to wait a few months or so. But you can accelerate that rise by following the following tips.

Turn Your Site to Gold

If you want your site to immediately hit the top spot at the search results page you need to know what attracts the search engines’ spiders the most.

1. Keywords

These spiders are constant looking for the content of these pages. If your website contains juicy keywords that directly relate to your business. The chances of having your site increase in popularity are better. You can put these keywords in either your tag or within your article itself.

For example, a site that sells cars should have the following words saturating his page: car, auto, sales, automobile, van, SUV, truck, and so on.

2. Index Your Pages

Spiders move from site to site, and from page to page by following the links that are listed in every page they visit. If you have pages that are not listed in your index page, there is a big possibility that the spiders will miss those pages. So make sure all your links are, as much as possible, at the index page. If not, at least make sure there is a direct and easy path from the index page to every page in your site.

It also helps if you have other sites whose links point to you. So get all your friends who have good sites up to show a link that leads to your site.

3. Optimize your content

Remember rule number1? Keywords have a great impact on a web site’s popularity. However, spiders are also aware that some sites abuse the use of keywords. And they know how to act accordingly. Instead of getting a better ranking, you might find your ranking falling instead.

You could add more and better content to your site. This allows you to increase the keyword density in your website without abusing any search engine rules. Examples of this would be to link tutorials, essays, and other material to your site. If these materials are keyword rich, that would increase the ranking of your web site.

4. Paid Advertisements and Directories.

You could also have your site advertised by Google or have it listed on the Yahoo directory. It may cost you money, but it does accelerate your rise to prominence faster.

Try Mixing Them Up

Mix and match these various strategies according to your needs and your capabilities. Soon enough, you will find your website up there among the most popular in the land. And as for the traffic? You’ll have so much traffic you won’t have time to close your gates.

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The Curve 8310 has not been the best selling phone BlackBerry have every built, in spite of this it is still worth looking at if you are offered one with the right deal. The functional design of this mobile phone is not as good as we have come to expect from BlackBerry. The Curve 8310 is an entry level mobile phone and, compared alongside some of the more popular mobile phones at this price it is quite well featured.

The BlackBerry Curve 8310 is compatible with 2G GSM 850 / 900 / 1800 / 1900 . A 2 MP, 1600×1200 pixels, flash camera is integrated into the Curve 8310 camera. For those that need access to the Internet on the move a HTML, browser is included.To allow mobile Internet access a HTML, browser is included. At 111 g in weight the Curve 8310 is a bit heavy for a handset of its type. If colour is important you may like to know that this handset is only available in Silver,. We found the Curve 8310 one of the smallest phones available. The BlackBerry Curve 8310 comes equipped with bluetooth, making a great deal of devices compatible. The battery that is supplied with the Curve 8310 is a Standard battery, Li-Ion 1100 mAh,. The battery life the Curve 8310 is 4:00 talk time and 408 hrs reserve charge. The display type is 65K colors. The BlackBerry Curve 8310 is equipped with Polyphonic (32 channels), MP3 ring tones plus a vibrating alert . This phone has a number of extras such as:

Despite being a relatively new model, the BlackBerry Curve 8310 has lots of competition. Because of this it is fairly easy to get a real bargain on this mobile handset.

You may find it time consuming trying to find the very best deal on a BlackBerry Curve 8310, after all there are numerous online stores and network providers to consider. Try using a comparison site for mobile deals to get cheap mobile phones .

SBIR Corner: FFP vs. CPFF contracts:

In the SBIR/STTR world, the single most important decision you need to make is whether you are going to bid a job as Firm Fixed Price (FFP) or as Cost plus Fixed Fee (CPFF). These are two very different contract types and the decision to use one contract type over the other is very important to the overall success of a program. If your sponsor gives you a choice on the matter, the decision to go with one contract type over the other should be well thought out prior to submitting your proposal.

A Firm Fixed Price (FFP) contract is a lot like the tag price you would find on a pair of sneakers. If the price tag on the sneakers is $54.99, then the consumer will pay $54.99 for those sneakers. No more. No less. The profit margin of those sneakers to the manufacturer is built into that price and is transparent to the buyer. Likewise, if a FFP contract to research XYZ, is $99,999, then the Government is going to pay you $99,999 for that body of research. They will not pay you any more and they will not pay you any less. It is critical in this kind of contract to nail down exactly what you are and are not going to do for that price. You do this by writing a specific Statement of Work and by carefully reviewing your deliverables during contract negotiations.

A word to the wise. This isn’t to say that you can put a proposal together to do XYZ in which your cost is $50,000 and you sell it to the Government for $99,999. That could be considered defective pricing in accordance with the Federal Acquisition Regulation (FAR) guidelines and it also exceeds the statutory maximum profit you can make on a contract such as this.

A Cost plus Fixed Fee (CPFF) contract is a contract type that reimburses you for fair and reasonable expenses up to a certain amount (a ceiling of some sort) and then pays you a prenegotiated fixed fee above any beyond your expenses. Accordingly, your profit margin or “fee” as one should call it, is exactly that renegotiated fixed fee. No more. No less. Depending on the billing method, your fee may be paid to you as one lump sum, or on some prorated basis where you earn a portion of the fee each billing cycle. In the end, if the job is done satisfactorily, the entire fixed fee amount will have been paid or will be payable to the contractor. If your total cost on the job is less than the ceiling, then your fee will not change, if your cost on the job is more than the ceiling, then your fee will not change either. It is essential to remember that you will not receive any more or any less fee than the renegotiated amount hence the terminology “fixed fee.” So, for example, if your cost ceiling is 90,000 and your fixed fee is $9,000 for a total contract value of $99,000, you will be reimbursed for your cost incurred up to, but not exceeding, $90,000 and you will receive $9,000 as a fee. If you spend more than $90,000 (and this doesn’t get you in hot water with your sponsor - i.e. a default situation) you may not be reimbursed for the amount that you go over $90,000 but you will get your $9,000 fee. If you only spend $80,000 you will be reimbursed for $80,000 and you will still receive $9,000 since your fee is, you got it… fixed!

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Aura and space clearing can be accomplished in a number of ways. One easy and simple way is by using special herbs to clear the area. Herbs and incense have been used in this way for thousands of years. And for good reason. It works!

One of the best, all around cleansers is a wonderfully fragrant herb that grows wild in many places here in the mountains of California, White Sage.

White Sage has been revered by the native people due to the sacred qualities that the herb possesses and the spirit that overshadows it.

The smell of White Sage being burned and used to smudge an area or an aura is so powerful that you may find yourself shifting into an altered state as the smell enters your lungs. I love the way it smells, but it is very strong. Some people may be repulsed by it, but that can be very telling in itself.

It has been my experience that heavy smokers generally do not like the smell of sage. Could it be that the frequency of it attempts to interfere with the habit of cigarette smoking, which causes initial discomfort to the smoker? Perhaps sage could be utilized in some way to help overcome that addiction.

The vibrational frequency of this particular herb will dislodge and clear most negative energies very quickly.

Have you ever gone into a house or building where there has been a lot of emotional distress or perhaps a death or long illness, and you felt uncomfortable there? A good smudging with sage would probably have a powerful affect and help tremendously to shift the “vibes” there.

If someone has a house like that and they have been trying to sell it unsuccessfully, they really should consider using the sage smudging technique to clear and uplift the energy there.

Afterwards, they may find that the property has a better “feel” to it that a potential buyer may sense as well. I wouldn’t be surprised if it improved their chances of getting an offer to purchase it soon after that.

When a faster frequency energy comes into contact with a lower vibrating energy, the lower vibrating energy becomes dislodged, broken up, dispelled and cleared.

Other herbs and incense that can be used for aura and space clearing are a good quality Sandalwood Incense, Frankincense Resin, Copal Resin and Nag Champa Incense to name a few.

You can find out more about these herbs and incenses by visiting http://www.Mystic-Hearts.com/Aura-Space-Clearing.html

Sherry Sims has spent the last 20 years assisting people as a professional psychic, intuitive counselor, energy healer and teacher. Helping people to resolve personal and relationship issues has been at the core of her work. She gently assists her clients to accept their true power which allows them to begin taking control of their lives through healing, awareness, and self-love.

For more information and articles by Sherry Sims please visit
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The more that “little me” allows surrender the more is done. What is done is “good.” This, I know, seems a value judgement. It might be better to say that “what is done is joy.” No resistance. No getting in the way. No concern for results. Simply trusting what will be will be. This free flow of feeling energy is the experience of joy.

One of the greatest teachers of Being was the Chinese Sage Lao Tzu.

He advised, “The best way to do is to be.” Another teacher of Being is the great William Shakespeare. He asked one of the greatest questions of all time. This was the question, “To be or not to be?” He asked in effect are we prepared to claim our birthright or miss the essentialness of life. We have been given the choice to decide “to be or not to be.” Most of us ignore this question and thus never get to know the joy of being fully alive.

In this 21st Century of noise and haste the experience of being is too scary.

“To be” is allowing. It is accepting that we do not always know. It is the experience of presence, trust and faith in the moment. It is knowing that what needs to be done moves from love. This is not what we regard as “my love.” It is the energy of love moving as one with and from the Beloved. It is the way Jesus, Buddha and Mohammed moved in the world. Theirs was the world of love in action.

“Being” is who you are.

You are a being of feeling. Without the free flow of feelings within your body you are alive but not living. We mostly avoid feelings until they surface in all sorts of ways unintended. When feelings are disallowed they turn from the flow of love to the desire for power. This usually means the desire for the “power over.” This “power over” only serves to increase our sense of separateness from others and ourselves. With focus on this “power over” you might gain the whole world and you will lose more than you ever know.

How do you “come to be?”

You get quiet. You get quiet any way you can. You go inside and enter the heart. This is your feeling centre. Learning “to be” is learning to be at one with the heart.
You open the heart in trust and faith that you are enough. Let me reassure you that each of you is “forever enough.” All else is compensation if this experience of “being enough” is not a known experience. Otherwise we go on “doing” our life. We are condemned to limp through the world looking for a missing piece of ourselves. Doing “your life” will always in one sense leave you feeling lonely.

One of the greatest instructions in the Bible is, “Be still and know that I am God.”

This is you. You are at one with God in stillness. In this stillness Universal Intelligence arrives. This is your “inner knowing self.” This is knowing you are not separate from the Beloved. This is true intelligence. This is not just rational “thinking about.” This is not just memory being played around with to make one feel good. This inner telling sense is the song of your heart. This song is always the song of love.

Much of the time we really do not love ourselves.

Many of us even find it hard to like ourselves. The increase in self-harm amongst our most vulnerable young people is a testimony to how little love is being demonstrated in our never enough society. We spend much of our time avoiding our feelings. We allow little in and we give little away.

We are rivers of energy contained tightly within the banks of judgement and unacceptability. Our young people are what I call “the people of the brand.” Today as a young person you are more and more branded. You are less and less free “to be.” If you wear the wrong brand of clothing or footwear you are emotionally branded. You are identified not as a being but as a commodity.

“To be,” means learning “to be” essential. Our essence is love. When you drop all you are not then it is there. You are not “your emotions.” You are not “your thinking.” You are the one who witnesses. In truth there really is no “you.” You are it all. You and the Beloved are forever one. To know this is grace.

To know this is a feeling experience.

You feel the experience of the essential. Love is essential. This is simply who you are beyond judgement. When you learn to be silently aware of the movement of the energy of the body you begin to glimpse moments of essentialness. These are moments of peace.

Just be still. Just be non-grasping, non-judging, non-wanting and non-doing. Just being no body seeking results all is well. You come “to be.” You feel at home. Your field of vibration is raised. You are raised up.

To help learn “to be” use what is known as “A mirror technique.” This is a simple body scanning exercise. This is also a Zen meditation practice. It is using a technique of simply scanning the body with awareness. This is an awareness of feeling in the body. You focus your attention on different parts of the body and become aware of the energy there. In this way you learn to know the difference between “feeling the feeling” and “thinking about the feeling.”

We are often not aware of our bodies other than from the neck up.

When we are asked about “our feelings” we “think about” our feelings. I remember one of my meditation teachers telling me that in the West we have forgotten what it means to feel the physicality of our feelings. This teacher of meditation discovered when he first returned to England that the meditation techniques he taught seemed to be having adverse effects.

He taught a meditation technique which focused on developing insight. Only he found students were becoming depressed. Later he found they “thought about” how to achieve “insight” rather than discover insight as a feeling experience. Rather than being once removed from their feelings they started to be twice removed. He introduced a second meditation called “The meditation of Loving Kindness” to balance the overall approach.

When we “think about” our feelings we are not “feelings the feeling.”

Feeling them means to be still and to be aware. Scan the body and feel the energy there vibrating. Make no judgement and do not label. This I personally find a very subtle sensation. As you proceed you find this is where the power of love resides. Love is the feeling of flow in the body devoid of judgment. This is your being. This is your being free. It is the freedom of allowing “what is” to be “as it is.”

Life is a felt experience.

This is not “your life” as a feeling experience. Life is the movement of energy. It is not something you own. It moves thought the body. This energy expresses in many ways. It expresses uniquely and wonderfully. When this energy, that is love, is blocked it become the experience of disease.

This free flowing experience of life gets blocked when it becomes “our love” and “our experience.” We highjack the dance of life for our own ends. This is what Jesus meant when he advised that to save “your life” is to lose it. He emphasised the error of trying to save something that belongs to no one but is the dance of the Beloved.

Practice feeling the feelings without labelling. Do not call them names. They are your energy locked into your personal cave of unacceptability. When you react to others it is usually because they are mirroring some aspect of this cave.

Learn a little tenderness primarily to yourself. Trust your heart “to be.” It is OK. You are OK. You are forever OK. You are the diamond you are looking to find in the heart of the other or in the world of the outer. You are looking in the wrong place. Wipe the dust from your eyes and discover insight.

Look “to be” before you do.

© Tony Cuckson 2004

Tony Cuckson is an Anam Cara. This Celtic term means “Soul Friend.” He specializes in providing insight for the spiritual journey, Irish Blessings, words of wisdom and finding inner peace. Visitors to Irish Blessings Matter website and Tony’s Blog get the opportunity to develop a purpose driven life through articles, newsletters and other programs. Get your free report called “7 ways to it’s a wonderful life” at http://www.irishblessingsmatter.com or visit Tony’s Blog at http://www.irishblessingsmatter.info for the best resources on spiritual growth, spiritual cinema, spiritual parenting, spiritual coaching and spirit in business.

As the price of oil and electricity continue to increase, many homeowners are becoming increasingly concerned are beginning to look assess their options. Some homeowners however are turning to the installation of the solar panels that will allow them to channel the energy of the sun to provide energy for their dwellings.

When energy prices were low, it was unnecessary to justify the upfront cost of cash required to install photovoltaic equipment, solar water heaters and similar equipment. The reason was simple to understand - it would simply take too long to recoup the cost of the equipment in the form of lower energy bills.

Things have changed though. As energy prices continue to go up, the amount of time required to recoup the upfront cost goes down. In addition, a number of state and local tax incentives make it even easier for homeowners to go solar and save money right away.

Photovoltaic systems have also come a long way. The costs of installing solar panels is still high, with a typical two kilowatt installation of OVR Solar solar panels costing around £10,000 / ($20, 000) in most cases, but special tax incentives and long term energy savings can help homeowners recoup those upfront costs faster than ever before.

For example, the Federal government provides homeowners with a tax savings of up to 30% of the cost of a solar unit. This tax savings can help eligible homeowners recoup some of the costs of installing solar panels and solar water heating systems up front, in addition to the energy savings they will enjoy down the road.

Some states will offer homeowners who install qualifying solar panel or water heating systems to write off a portion of the cost against tax liability, while others will provide a standard tax credit based on kilowatt usage. Still others provide tax relief in the form of property tax reductions or elimination, and many states provide businesses, government agencies and commercial enterprises with special tax breaks as well.

Breakeven point for your outlay may seem far away at today’s prices - but what about at tomorrow’s? However, as the prices for heating oil, gas and other forms of traditional energy continue to soar, so will demand for alternatives

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Warehousing is the second major component of physical distribution. When talking about warehouse inventory software, it is necessary to understand warehousing management. It has two distinct and equally important parts. First, there is the physical job of creating and running the network of storage points. Second, there is the managerial task of controlling the inventory levels. Though interrelated, they require separate and detailed discussion.

Like transportation, warehousing vests the products with time and place utility. In the case of some commodities, they also form utilities as well. It is common knowledge that a certain level of storage of products is an inescapable part of marketing. And, for products with a high degree of seasonality, larger scale storage is a must. In some cases, sub distribution or transit bottlenecks and increased lead-time of delivery necessitate extra storage.

Usually a product flows from the factory to the consumer through a long winding chain, consisting of multiple tiers of warehouses. In designing a warehousing system, it is necessary to raise and answer the following basic questions relating to this flow:

How many warehouses should we have?

Where should we locate them?

What should be the size or capacity of each of them?

While developing warehouse inventory software, the firm should remember that once the warehousing system is designed and put into operation, it becomes a partly fixed and partly adjustable entity. This is so because with most products, the demand in a given marketing territory consists of an average/constant component and a transient component. As a result, warehousing will have a constant component and a variable component. This automatically means that some adjustment is feasible in warehousing depending on market behavior. Generally speaking, the fewer the number of warehouses in the marketing territory, the lower the cost of warehouse inventory software.

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When Panasonic initially began designing a brand new leading range of TVs more or less around the year two thousand, their objectives were:

(+) To supply film quality so realistically, in order that audiences would believe that they are not purely viewing but in fact taking part in the action directly.

(+) To support the confidence of “being there” by submerging the spectators in first-class sound.

(+) To improve the experience by building a silky, elegant, but utterly unobtrusive television which will not distract the spectator for more than a second from the action taking place on screen.

(+) To make using the television as straightforward as physically possibly while moreover taking advantage of its networking potential.

(+) To imitate this aspiration, the newest TV products was approved to be branded VIERA: expressing a new VIsion ERA. The outcome was the biggest selling & prize-winning VIERA range of Plasma and Liquid Crystal Display (LCD) TVs that we have at this time, giving you the subsequent improvements: Locate top Panasonic Viera TVs at Sound and Vision!

Image performance: Equipped with Panasonic’s personally owned V.Real II / V.Real Pro II equipment - the end result of years and years of dedicated research & advancement that has spanned the extent of the television chain from professional broadcast cameras all the way through to TVs in your bedrooms - each VIERA offers pictures of enthralling authenticity & beauty & places you strongly at the hub of the movie!

Unequalled sound: Featuring the most recent digital tuners and a number of super-slim unobtrusive amps all stored within the shiny and thin structure of the VIERA itself, V.Audio sound plunges you in the on-screen world.

Sleek and yet inconspicuous design: From the telly to the telly stand, VIERA has graceful smooth curves that are practically organic in appearance. This original styling has been the facet of VIERA TV’s ever since the begin & gives the emotion of almost a “floating” display - that doesn’t distract you from the on-screen action. Moreover, VIERA TVs have been built from the ground up with the environmental atmosphere crucially in mind and feature refillable bamboo amplifiers, lead free construction, & best practice manufacturing.

Copyright 2006 David Steele

“We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.” — Khalil Gibran

Our life works and can be full of joy when we make effective choices. Our life can be full of sorrow if we make ineffective choices. Chooser vs. Victim

As a child, choices were made for me and I had little power over what happened to me. This is normal for children, but when we take this attitude as adults I call it being a “victim.”

The opposite of being a victim is to be “The Chooser.”

The concept of choice is remarkable, and that we have choices I consider to be a fact. Though in my life, I’ve forgotten this fact many times when I was impulsive or reactive. I find it challenging to take responsibility for my failures and pain as being the result of my own choices. I want to blame my boss, my ex-wife, the other driver, my parents; and for awhile I did.

I’ve had many wake-up calls that acting out of ignorance or impulse doesn’t absolve me of responsibility for making a bad choice.

When I was sixteen, a new driver, and got a ticket for making a U-turn across a double-yellow line I told the cop honestly that I didn’t know it was against the law, and felt it grossly unfair that he ticketed me anyway.

I fought the ticket in traffic court and lost. My only defense was “I didn’t know! I didn’t mean to break the law!” The judge told me ignorance was not an excuse for breaking the law. That was one of my first wake-up calls that as an adult, I would be held accountable for my choices even if they were unconscious. Scary thought.

We live in a victim culture. It’s usually the other guy’s fault that we go to war, get into a car accident, lose our money in stocks, get a divorce. While victim-hood might make us feel better and in the right, it also makes us helpless and perpetuates our problems.

The Law of Attraction

What do you want? A fulfilling life and relationship? A loving family? Success in your work? Peace in the world? I’ve learned that to get what you want you must BE THE CHOOSER.

Being the chooser means taking the initiative to create what you want, taking full responsibility for your outcomes, and making your choices mindful of their long-term consequences.

There is a law of the universe as powerful as the law of gravity that helps choosers and brings suffering on victims. It’s called the “Law of Attraction.” Just like “what goes up must come down;” “what is inside shows up on the outside,” “energy follows attention,” and “what you believe you can achieve.”

If you believe you don’t have a choice, you won’t.

If you shove responsibility for your choices and outcomes outside of yourself, the law of attraction will try to teach you to take responsibility by repeating the lesson over and over until you get it.

This is the origin of crime, war, and most other sources of human suffering.

I want to be happy and fulfilled. I want you to be happy and fulfilled. I’ve learned that happiness comes from within, by taking responsibility as an adult for my choices and outcomes. I’ve learned that I need to be “The Chooser” in my life and my heartfelt desire is that I can inspire you to be The Chooser as well.

Be The Chooser

We have the knowledge and technology to create a wonderful life for ourselves and society for our children. Most of our social problems, such as crime, war, poverty, violence, disease, divorce, homelessness, and more, is the result of ineffective choices. Unfortunately, these social problems will continue as long as people believe they don’t have a choice about them.

Choosers know what they want and how to get it. In charge of their lives, Choosers take responsibility for what happens. Being a Chooser takes a certain amount of confidence and effort, but anyone can be one! Being The Chooser means taking initiative for your outcomes: you are in charge of creating what you want in life. You do not restrict yourself to what or who chooses you.

Very often, we are not aware of the range of choices available to us. We are often unaware of our power to choose, and of the true power of our choices. We might make choices unconsciously, reactively or impulsively. We might be unaware of the long-term consequences of our choices.

A.I.M. To Be The Chooser

Step 1: Be AWARE that you have choices

You are never stuck! You always have choices, even if you don’t know what your choices are. Don’t allow impulse or lack of information to result in a poor choice.

Step 2: IDENTIFY your choices

Always assume there are more choices than you are aware of. Seek to identify a variety of the choices available to you, mindful that “you don’t know what you don’t know.” Identify productive choices and don’t settle for unproductive choices.

Step 3: MAKE productive choices

Use all the information available to you to make the best choice possible to achieve the outcome you desire. Evaluate a choice based upon the likely long-term consequences of that choice.

If you want to be the Chooser, here are some things you have control over and can DO (remember- CRAPGAP):

* BE CREATIVE: Seek new ideas and opportunities beyond the immediate past and present

* BE A RISK TAKER: Accept rejection and failure as part of life, and don’t take it personally

* BE ASSERTIVE: Ask for what you want, and say “no” to what you don’t want

* BE PROACTIVE: Don’t merely react to events, or habitually wait for things to happen

* BE GOAL-ORIENTED: Clearly define and vigorously pursue your goals

* ASSUME ABUNDANCE: Believe there will always be plenty of opportunities and resources

* BE POSITIVE: Always anticipate success

“Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously.

If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life.

You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.” — Senator Robert F. Bennett (R-Utah)

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